Rigid Complemtarity, Competitive Symmetry, or Submissive Symmetry

1). Which pattern (rigid complementarity, competitive symmetry, or submissive symmetry) do you think would be the most difficult to change? Why? Which would be the most damaging to a relationship? Which would be the most potentially damaging to the self-esteem of the individuals involved? 

I think the one that would be most difficult to change is the Rigid Complementarity because day in and day out we listen to our parents, they teach us things we need to learn and we take aftter what they do. They are in control of us until a certain age when they either send you on your own (when you move out or go somewhere for school) or if us as a kid leave on our own. The most damaging to a relationship would be Rigid Complementarity as well. Because if we choose to break away it's usually in a hurtful way, whether it was one of the parents fault or the kids. In some cases the parent has no choice and something happens to them, leaving the child on there own. I believe that the one that would do the most damage to someone's self esteem would be Competitive Symmetry. Competitive Symmetry is something I know a ton about (I played baseball and football for 13 years and now I am currently bodybuilding) and if I don't have something or someone to motivate me or push me, I simply won't do it, and it pisses me off when that happens. Which in some cases makes me train harder in certain aspects. But as far as Competitive Symmetry goes, it lowers my self-esteem when I need someone to push me or compete with me and there's no one to do so.